Recently i happened to watch a Marathi movie on one of the cable channels in Pune. The movie was titled Saatchya Aat Gharat (At home before seven). The movie was based on a true life incident and the end posed a question to all men watching it.
The story revolved around the rape of one of the girl students in Pune University by a fake police man. The incident not only covers the incident and its effects, but also the culture which the youth of today seem to blindly follow as modern.
The victim in this case happened to go out with her so called boy friend to a remote location at around night time. A person who impersonated as a cop, caught the two when they happened to get cozy. He then demanded their identity cards. As the couple did not have the same, the guy was told to get the ID card. The Cop then raped her in the guy's absence.
The fallout of this incident was the boy friend did not want to enter any relation with the girl, as she had been raped. The guy was concerned about the reaction of his family and society members if he were to enter into marriage with this female who had been "RAPED". A group of friends who were their classmates tried their best to convince the guy not to ditch her. However the guy posed a hypothetical question to one of his friends about what would he have done if he were in his place and his girl friend was raped.
The guy seemed to have no answer and he said as the question was hypothetical in nature he did not think it was necessary to answer the same. This guys girl friend then realized that the person who she thought was worth marrying, did not have the appropriate answer to what would he have done if she was raped.
The movie thus shows how the society has still not changed in regards to its outlook towards woman, especially when the woman happens to be a rape victim. There are a number of other issues which the youth of today can relate through this film.
However the one question posed by the guy, seems to have left a real imprint on my mind. What would i have done if my girl friend was raped? Would i ditch her, just because she is no longer a virgin? Is virginity the only issue for a boy to love a girl? Does a guy only love a girl for her physical features? What would i or you have done if the girl in this case was not our girlfriend and happened to be your wife, sister, or some relative.
This issue has made me think, but i feel the society needs to have a convincing answer. Do you have one?
11 comments:
It all depends on how strong is the relation.
If i had commited to dat gal.den i will definately go wid da realationship same as b4.
i will never leave dat gal coz watever happnd was widout her consent.
I will definately marry dat gal......n after dis incident no one can stop me doin dat..........
coz once u hav commited to a gal bcoz of her qualities n a person not as physical attaction.........
I thnk there is no point asking such a rubbish/pathetic/useless Q...whn the girl trusted you and came with you..and bcos of you such a suituation arised.....
I thnk in such a suituation she will need you more than ever..if you really luv the girl u will never leave her alone..i would have never left the girl...infact would have beeen more closer to her to help her forget such a thng...
1st of ALL.....NEVER PLAY WITH SOME ONES FEELINGS....SOMEDAY IT COMES TO YOU ONLY...
I would always be with the girls no matter what relatives/society says....after all the culprit was a part of the society itself.Such a society should be shattered 1st.
LOVE IS GOD.
anil::: kudos to GALA and ABHIJITH
WELL I HAVEN'T BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP BUT STILL I FEEL I WOULD DEFINITELY DO THE SAME .......COMMITMENT IS COMMITMENT
BUT "JUSTICE" IS THE "PRECEDECESSOR" OF EVERYTHING....THE "CULPRIT" SHOULD BE BROUGHT TO BOOK
@ Prahsant: Agreed
@ gala: Good to hear that man. I think if both were committed to the relation, then nothing else should matter.
@ Abhijith: Yes we need to support the girl if such a situation arose. Love is GOD, and one cant reject GOD.
@ Anil: I tell you what, the culptits P@*#S should be chopped off. That's the best justice.
CHEERS TO ALL MY FRIENDS. THAT'S COMMITMENT. FEELS GOOD TO HAVE FRIENDS LIKE YOU'LL.
I wont back off.... thats for sure..
I think its pretty easy for me or anyone else to say that "i wont ditch her", but the point is when it actually happens to u, u have so many other thoughts going in ur mind.
Most of time we take decisions not just keeping oursleves in mind but also our family members and this is the main reason why we back off from taking some very strong decisions in life, it not that we fear for oursleves but we do not want our family members to suffer due to any of our actions, which is precisely what the boy in this case is fearing.
So it all depends, I wish all of us are strong enough to take the right decision of supporting our girl friend if (GOD forbid) something like this happens to us, but just saying that "I will support her" is easier said than done.
@ Denzil: Good for you.
@ Jamil: I agree with you when u say its easier said than done. As for us the existing blood relationships sometimes matter more. But i really hope that such a situation would never arise. But by hoping that such things would never happen, we are in a similar situation as the guy in this movie who lost his GF coz he was unable to make any decision.
hey
I wud definatly stay wil her
anil@jamil::: c dude i don't even know u , but let me tell u that its really easy to say then doing it ,but u won't say "CRAP" on some1's webpage , whose one of ur best friend . "WELL I ALWAYS FEEL A PERSON'S PERSONA IS REVEALED BY THE WAY HE/SHE PRESENTS HIMSELF/HERSELF TO THE WORLD,,WELL ITS UP2 U """UNDERSTANDING""" IT WHAT IT MEANS" IN GENERAL NO OFFENCE TO U.
THAT IS A REASON THERE GOES A SAYING """"WATCH B4 U LEAP""""
@ Anonymous above.
You suck and what you are implying doesn't deserve any consideration.
@Cedric.
You know when I read the story it immediately remined me of an incident a friend had narrated.It was exactly the same,except that his friend was gang raped by a group of hooligans.The boyfriend dumped her at my friends place all bleeding and never came back.He refused to even meet her after that.
People can be so shallow and cruel no?
But there are men of mettle who are nothing like that too.I've met some of them.Keeps my faith.
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